DIVORCE AND CHILDREN

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Number Improved with Mediation and Collaborative Law

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There is nothing more important to you than your children.  You know how important it is to protect them from the stress and trauma that can accompany a bitter divorce.  How you choose to handle your separation can have a profound affect on them. Focus your attention on what matters most to you. You want to protect your children and we can, together.

We speak about whatever is important to you regarding your children.  It could be the company in which your ex keeps while the children are around to how to handle seeing them if you have to more out of town for employment.

Mediation and Collaborative Law share your priorities.  Why risk their well-being or make it secondary to the ‘conflict of the moment’.


Parenting plans (for custody and future relations):

“Flash point” issues you may need to consider:

  1. Educational decisions
  2. Health decisions
  3. Therapy needs

How I’ll help you handle it.

“All grown-ups were once children…but only few of them remember it.” ― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

Asset management

The fewer financial surprises, the better in particular, cash flow should be planned out to prepare for potential bumps in the road.

The obvious would be the trust for the children (Will and Estate preparation) , college funds, extracurricular activities, and day-to-day cash flow.

Parental relations and children's events

Reaching agreements regarding future events

This is a discussion that you need to have and walk away with a plan.  I have seen too many have such a hard time because they decided to ‘deal with it at the time’.

Children will be bringing you back together with the ex and it is not always easy if you do not have a agreeable is always hard.  But when children are involved their should be a parental cooperation.  This meaning that birthdays, sports, school-related activities, weddings, and grandchildren visits should have a discussed and agreed upon plan between the two of you.  This will go a long way reducing the stress your children may feel.  And remember that was the goal in the first place.

Parenting plans

We create the parameters and structure you need to cultivate healthy relationships between you and your children–and between both of you and your children.

I’ll work with you to:

  • Plan for cash flow that minimally interrupts the children’s lives.
  • Set sound goals for education.
  • Develop a healthcare structure that works for everyone.

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'Flash Point' issues you may need to consider. Education decisions | Health decisions | Therapy decisions

In most cases these are some of the decisions that have to be planned for when children are involved:

  1. Educational
  2. Health
  3. Therapy

We work on:

  • Making important decisions now and deciding how future ones will be made
  • How to project and stabilize cash flow to meet children’s needs to minimize disruption in their lives.
  • Setting sound educational goals.
  • Creating a workable healthcare structure.
  • Formulas for adjusting financial arrangements with life changes.
  • Plans for revisiting mediation in certain situations.
  • Strategies for handling unexpected health situations.
  • Establishing a healthy and reliable schedule for parenting time, even in challenging situations.

Parenting consistently is hard even under the best of circumstances; making it work after separation requires careful planning.  Together we can address whatever is most important to you .  You can spend less time worrying and more time focusing on your life with them.  They need you mentally healthy also.

Custody - 'Parenting Time'

It’s about parenting time, not custody.

“Custody” means ownership; “parenting” means family. My role is to help keep the damage caused by divorce to a minimum. One critical way to shield children from potential ugliness is to remove the fighting from the home and save it for the mediation table.

To help ensure healthy relationships, you’ll need to agree on “parenting time” and other key issues for now and in the future.

I’ll guide you on:

  • How to project and stabilize cash flow to minimally disrupt children’s lives.
  • Setting sound educational goals.
  • Creating a workable healthcare structure.
  • Specific strategies for dealing with change.
  • Formulas for adjusting child support with life changes.
  • Plans for revisiting mediation in certain situations.
  • Strategies for handling unexpected educational, health or therapy situations.
  • Establishing a viable schedule for parenting time. Special considerations might include:
  • Local arrangements when both parents work.
  • Long-distance living arrangements.