Why does mediation and collaborative law work best for parents?

The process honors—and focuses on—your values to shelter, protect and provide for your children.



In any divorce, it’s easy to lose focus on what really matters. Together we will chart a course for a resolution that keeps everyone protected. Among our priorities:

A healthy, reliable schedule

It’s important to develop a structure that cultivates healthy relationships between you and your children–and between both of their parents. This may include:

A plan for parenting time. No matter how old they are, how you choose to handle your divorce can have a profound effect on your children. I’ll help you focus your attention on what matters most. This includes creating plans ranging from typical parenting obstacles to tougher life changes, such as increased employment commitments or relocation issues.

Mediation and collaborative law reflect your priorities. Why risk your children’s well-being or make it secondary to the “conflict of the moment”?

Health care: structure and plan for the unexpected

We’ll explore ways to maintain the health and wellness care your children receive. We’ll also discuss strategies for handling unexpected health issues.

Cash flow: protect and stabilize

Well-established financial settlements can offer a sense of physical and emotional reassurance at a critical time in your children’s lives. Everyone’s situation is different. Some financial needs are immediate, while others–especially where children are involved–must address your family’s long-term well-being. For example, some concerns for which we might create detailed plans and formulas include:

  • Child care
  • Extracurricular activities
  • Day-to-day expenses
  • School trips
  • Milestone events
  • Vacations
  • Summer Camp
  • Trust(s)
  • Wills and estate planning
  • Rising costs (inflation)

Education: set common goals

Also an important topic that sometimes can set off conflict, your children’s education—what it will entail and, as importantly, how to fund it. Working together, we’ll set priorities and create a common framework for saving to meet one of the biggest expenses of your life, such as:

  • Tutoring
  • Private school tuition, etc.
  • College preparation

Strategies for future decisions

Whether you’re together or separate, your parenting roles and responsibilities will remain. Inevitably, conflicts will arise; my goal is to provide you with safe, effective and nondestructive ways to deal with them. I’ll provide the forum and strategies to avoid speaking through intermediaries, lawyers or the court to reach sound decisions.

What if: financial arrangements as your life evolves

Life isn’t black and white, and circumstances change.
Together, we can discuss possible—and even seemingly impossible—shifts in your financial situation, and identify ways to incorporate these changes into your settlement agreement.