COMMON DIVORCE METHODS COMPARED
To me, mediation and collaborative law are satisfying because we reach conclusions rationally and humanely. See for yourself:
MediationNeutral Assistance for Both Parties
Children are sheltered
Your children are kept out of the process (unless you want to offer them professional support). As the parent, you decide what’s best for them.
You make the final decisions
Nothing is decided without your approval. You make the decisions that affect your life.
Your finances are private
Meetings are behind closed doors and confidential
Mediation is usually the least expensive alternative. Professional services are kept to a minimum.
You set the schedule
We meet when you’re prepared, mentally, physically, emotionally.
The “interest” is foremost
We focus on the common goal. This saves time and money.
A calmer, freer atmosphere
You will be heard, your interests will be met, your assets will be protected. Mediation will give both of you control and peace of mind.
CollaborationRepresentation for Each Party
Children are protected
Your lawyer and a team of financial, emotional and child-health professionals help you create the future that best serves your children — on your terms.
You control decisions
Professionals are there to guide you.
You maintain privacy
All meetings are behind closed doors and confidential.
Money well spent
Assembling a skilled team has a price (though often less than litigation), but it’s efficient: Experts quickly focus on maximizing and preserving your assets.
The “interest” is foremost, and everyone is heard.
Your maintain dignity
We foster an atmosphere of respect and cooperation. Everyone is encouraged to bring their best selves to the table.
You save time
You decide on the speed of the process; we follow your schedule.
Litigation Lawyers, Court Room, Judge
Children are in the middle
If custody is contested, expect the court to appoint an attorney for your children. Your family could face invasive psychological evaluations.
A judge decides
You are bound by their decisions.
Your dispute are public
Depositions, courtrooms, partisan expert witnesses can make your private life public.
Time and money are spent working against one another; resources that will not be available to either spouse in the end.
Your life takes a back seat to the courts calendar
Results could depend on which spouse has more stamina for the fight.
Out of your hands
Others make critical decisions about your life.
No negotiation—or spousal communication
Your attorney will negotiate property and custody issues for you. You may be advised not to communicate directly with your spouse.
Litigation is antagonistic, debilitating and draining. It’s you against them.