COMMON DIVORCE METHODS COMPARED

To me, mediation and collaborative law are satisfying because we reach conclusions rationally and humanely. See for yourself:

MediationNeutral Assistance for Both Parties

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        • Children are sheltered

          Your children are kept out of the process (unless you want to offer them professional support). As the parent, you decide what’s best for them.

        • You make the final decisions

          Nothing is decided without your approval.  You make the decisions that affect your life.

        • Your finances are private

          Meetings are behind closed doors and confidential

        • It’s cost-effective

          Mediation is usually the least expensive alternative. Professional services are kept to a minimum.

        • You set the schedule

          We meet when you’re prepared, mentally, physically, emotionally.

        • The “interest” is foremost

          We focus on the common goal. This saves time and money.

        • A calmer, freer atmosphere

          You will be heard, your interests will be met, your assets will be protected. Mediation will give both of you control and peace of mind.

CollaborationRepresentation for Each Party

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  • Children are protected

    Your lawyer and a team of financial, emotional and child-health professionals help you create the future that best serves your children — on your terms.

  • You control decisions

    Professionals are there to guide you.

  • You maintain privacy

    All meetings are behind closed doors and confidential.

  • Money well spent

    Assembling a skilled team has a price (though often less than litigation), but it’s efficient: Experts quickly focus on maximizing and preserving your assets.

  • You participate

    The “interest” is foremost, and everyone is heard.

  • Your maintain dignity

    We foster an atmosphere of respect and cooperation.  Everyone is encouraged to bring their best selves to the table.

  • You save time

    You decide on the speed of the process; we follow your  schedule.

Litigation Lawyers, Court Room, Judge

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            • Children are in the middle

              If custody is contested, expect the court to appoint an attorney for your children. Your family could face invasive psychological evaluations.

            • A judge decides

              You are bound by their decisions.

            • Your dispute are public

              Depositions, courtrooms, partisan expert witnesses can make your private life public.

            • Money talks

              Time and money are spent working against one another; resources that will not be available to either spouse in the end.

            • Your life takes a back seat to the courts calendar

              Results could depend on which spouse has more stamina for the fight.

            • Out of your hands

              Others make critical decisions about your life.

            • No negotiation—or spousal communication

              Your attorney will negotiate property and custody issues for you. You may be advised not to communicate directly with your spouse.

            • High anxiety

              Litigation is antagonistic, debilitating and draining. It’s you against them.